“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”-C. JoyBell C.

Musk deer always tried to find out the musk in the jungle but never found. You have abundance potential within you but you try to find them at places outside. Whatever is available in the universe, it is available within our entity.

Brain is the store house of information. Multiple neurons are available to act when you have right kind or wrong kind of thinking. When you have wrong kind of thinking, you are lost. But if you have right kind of thinking you prosper.

Brain is like farmer’s land. Land does not take any objection you sow. If you sow tobacco seeds, after considerable time you reap tobacco fruits. If you sow the seeds of apple, you reap the apples. It never happened in the history that you sow groundnut and you reap lady finger.

How Do You Sow Things in Mind?

We have observed that when child is born, he picks up the language and behavior through imitation. While studying psychology in my masters I studied to come across a child who was kept with the lambs and cattle for several years on experimental basis. The child was provided all the facilities of food, nurturing and natural calls facilities. But he was refrained to associate with human. After few years when the child was taken out from protected shelter, the first word he uttered was ‘beyyeee.’ just like the sound of lamb.

This study teaches us that whatever we learn from the environment is our habit formation. I may be abusive if I have similar association. If I am with gambler, I can be a great gambler. It is naked fact that we learn from the environment.

Make Your Willpower Stronger Than Your Environment

When I throw ball in the mud it does not bounce back but if I throw on wall it bounces back with the same intensity. We have to be like mud sometimes and like wall during other times. It depends upon what kind of wolf is dominating. I saw one of my close lady relatives listening abusive language from her mother-in-law. I was upset for a moment. I advised that she could retaliate. She told me magically, “I have dropped the receiver!”

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” I was reminded for an incident when one of our relatives came to my residence when there was lot of noise of fighter aircrafts. He could not sleep but we slept peacefully. It might have happened that we became habitual of environment. But specified habit can be developed. When I sleep at 10 pm, my spouse played songs in the mobile but it did not disturb me and I always fell asleep.

If someone hurts you in bad manner and you carry feelings for days together. Some people even do not forget even the person is out of site. One of my new neighbors once narrated a story that his father had insulted by telling him donkey. I said where is your father. He said that he had passed away before ten years. He could not forget the insult even after his death. So, my friend, try to forget your insults within minimum time. It will relieve you from huge burden.

Associate With Good People

By the way, who is good people? People with positive thinking and good behavior are kind of people which make desirable impact on your mind. If you have such people around, you are lucky. If you have paucity of such people around you, found some of them in social media and make friends. You may always wish to help other people by sharing your wisdom but at the same time you must associate with the people who are above your standards so that you can learn lot many useful things from them. One of the Nobel prize winners refused to join a society membership when he felt that subject association was under the standard of his status. This can be biased but one should be careful to choose the right association.

Read Self Help Books

When I thought I have learnt enough and need not read more, I realised later this is the time I have to read more. How can you under-estimate the power of a writer who has more than 30 years of experience. The observations, suggestions and various experiments for years are just more than enough to serve you wisdom in readymade format. The books are the offspring of several studies and specific readings.

A small portion of reading every day may terminate in volumes. Just like the medicine, you may be selective for your reading to improve your specific area. If I lack communication skills, I may read good book on the subject. You are never complete with your own thinking. Lot of ideas from number of eminent readers may definitely improve your decision-making power excellent.

Empower Your Subconscious Mind

Subconscious mind has tremendous power. Several times greater than your conscious mind. Subconscious mind has no logical thinking power. Whatever command you give to it, it will obey. I constantly thought that it will rain and I will not be able to go for a walk in the evening. It almost happened during rainy season. In another incident I always thought that I will win the race of my cycling. I constantly reminded my subconscious mind with stronger commands. It finally happened although I was barely able to win the medal.

Another fact about the subconscious mind I learnt during my psychological studies that it understands the language of picture. During my early days when I was fond of certain brand of cell phone, I pasted the poster on wall a specific brand cell phone. After a couple of years, I had the same brand in my hand. It was magical experience when I wrote in a diary that I will have one daughter and one son before my marriage happened. I mentioned five years gap between them in my writing. It exactly happened in the same way.

You ask anything from the universe and it will happen with a law of attraction.

Belief System



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Former aircraft engineer IAF, Retired Branch Manager SBI, Psychologist, Best Selling Author & Defence Recruitment Trainer